The Blonde Girl’s Guide


We all LOVE a good icy blonde, right? It’s such a good look no matter the season, and everything is just 10x better with blonde hair. But taking care of it can be super scary and super difficult if you’re not prepared! I’ve been through every trial and tribulation with my blonde and my hair has been every color you can think of, so I definitely know the dos and don’ts of the hair game. I’ve gathered up some of my best tips (and my biggest do NOTS) and put them all together for you! So, grab a snack and settle in and let’s get right into it!

Knowing Your Shade

A hard truth: We’re not all meant to be straight up Elsa platinum blonde, as sad as that is. Even with icy blonde, there’s still sooo many different shades and tones and undertones and it’s important you pick the right one for you and your look so it doesn’t look crazy! Typically the fairer skin you have, the icier you can go and still look gorgeous. Take Elsa for example – her porcelain complexion goes perfectly with her practically white hair. As your skin tone deepens, you may want to look into going just a *little* less icy, you can also balance this out by mixing up the highlights and undertones in your hair! Just pop in a few warmer shades of blonde throughout your hair and let it blend with the ice.

Washing Your Blonde

Taking care of blonde hair is one thing, but taking care of icy blonde is a whole different ball game. The lighter your hair is, the easier it’ll be to see any damage – meaning split ends, dryness, etc. Before you even call your hairdresser and demand her to make you an Ice Queen, please make sure you’re ready to make the commitment of taking SUPER good care of your blonde! Of course everyone’s hair is different and some people will need to do a little more care and some can get by with doing a little less.

The first thing to start off with is finding your shampoo! I 100% recommend (this is for your own good, trust me) a purple shampoo, ESPECIALLY if you have well water at your house! Well water contains minerals that will almost definitely dull your blonde and turn it this weird, brassy orange shade. I recommend using purple shampoo no matter what kind of water your shower uses, but for well water it’s a MUST! There’s several types of purple shampoo and you’ll probably try a few before you find the one you love. After years of trips to Sally’s and many dollars spent trying new purple shampoos, I finally found one that makes me SO happy – the Matrix Total Results So Silver Shampoo! You can pick it up at Ulta and *most* drug stores, and the price isn’t bad! I let mine sit in my hair for about 2 minutes before I rinse, because I have well water and want to make sure there are NO brassy spots!

Another little tip for washing ANY hair color (but especially blonde) is to not use hot water! The same way hot water dries your skin out, it also dries out your scalp and can make your hair super prone to breakage and just look brittle. Personally I’m a gal that likes my shower water boiling hot, and I hate cold water, so this step took me a while to commit to, but I found a way! I’ll wash my hair with lukewarm water and go on about the rest of my shower, and right before I get out, I turn the water as cold as I can stand it and just let it run over my hair for about 30 seconds. It’s a rough 30 seconds, but it’s worth it! Cold water also helps seal off the moisture in your hair and reduces frizz!

I try to only wash my hair 2-3 times a week and I live on dry shampoo the other days! I typically style it the day after I wash it and then throw it up in braids or something simple once it starts feeling a little dirty or anything.

Hair Masks & Treatments

This is SUPER important – especially right after getting your hair colored! The first time I wash my hair after getting it colored, I always make sure to go in with some kind of mask, whether it’s from Sally’s or homemade. When I get one from the store, I grab the Ion Color Defense Intense Moisture Conditioner Packette – you can pick this one up from Sally Beauty! I love to use this one right after a coloring because it’s made to preserve your color while also locking in moisture. The package says to let it sit for 1-2 minutes before rinsing, but I usually let it set for about 5-10… rules were meant to be broken, right?

On days where I don’t feel like making a trip to the store, I get creative and make my own mask! This was a LIFESAVER after I had an infamous bleaching incident – it truly saved my hair! It’s made up of things you can typically just find in your kitchen, and you can absolutely substitute things to suit your own needs. It may sound (and smell… sorry) a little weird but trust me, it’s sooooo worth it!

The ingredients are: half a cup of virgin olive oil, 2 eggs, and 1 cup of whole milk. Since this does involve raw eggs, PLEASE be super sanitary and careful about germs! There are different ways to mix it up and apply it, but I find it easiest (and cleanest) to do it through an applicator bottle. I personally wear gloves when I do it as well just because I’m a germaphobe and the raw eggs scare me a little, but if you’re careful about it you’re fine!

I start by cracking the 2 eggs and pouring them into my bottle. Next, I pour in my milk and olive oil and shake it up REALLY well. You may need to whisk it if the eggs won’t mix in or get clumpy, because the applicator tip is pretty small and the eggs may not want to go through. In that case, you can snip the top to make it a little shorter which will make the hole wider! Once I have my little mixture all ready to go, I start applying it throughout my dry hair, focusing more on the ends than the roots because the ends are typically where the damage needs to be repaired. I let my little mixture sit for about 20 minutes tied up on my head so the egg germs don’t touch anything, all while I viciously Lysol my bathroom and bleach anything the egg may have touched (can y’all tell I REALLY don’t want salmonella?). Once it’s done sitting, I begin my shampooing process! I may shampoo twice after this mask just to make sure all of the egg and oil is for sure out.


As much as you want to style your hair, try to resist – especially flat ironing! I try to flat iron my hair at MOST once a week. Curling isn’t as bad, flat ironing just kills your ends so you should try to avoid it at all costs! ALWAYS, ALWAYS, ALWAYS say YES to heat protectant! Heat damage shows up super easily in lighter hair, so it’s crucial to keep your ends as healthy as possible! I sometimes rub just a taaaad bit of the olive oil on my finger tips and run it through my ends right after a wash but make sure not to get it close to your roots, it’ll cause oiliness!

Now that you’ve to all the tips and tricks you need, it’s time to go get that blonde you’ve been eyeing on Pinterest! Follow all of the tips and most importantly, be consistent! Your hair is a baby, treat it as such. ….okay that might be a little much, but you get the point.